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To write wedding vows, start by listing key aspects of your relationship, such as special memories, what you love about your partner, and your future hopes. 

Then, structure your vows by beginning with an affirmation of your partner and relationship, sharing a meaningful story or inside joke, and making specific promises for the future, incorporating humor and your unique personality. 

Finish with a powerful statement of commitment and practice reading them aloud to ensure they flow well and are within your desired length. 

Steps to Writing Your Vows

1. Brainstorm & List Your Thoughts

    • Think about how your partner makes you feel and what you admire most about them. 

    • Jot down special moments, inside jokes, or significant memories you've shared. 

    • Consider your shared values, goals, and hopes for the future together. 

2. Structure Your Vows

    • Introduction: Begin by addressing your partner and stating your intention to marry them. 

    • Personal Connection: Include a story or memory that illustrates your love and connection. 

    • Promises: Make specific promises, both serious and lighthearted, that are unique to your relationship. 

    • Future: Look ahead and express your excitement for the journey you'll take together. 

    • Conclusion: End with a powerful statement of lifelong commitment. 

3. Refine and Personalize

    • Be Authentic: Write in a voice that is true to you and your relationship, not what you think you "should" say. 

    • Add Humor: Don't be afraid to include inside jokes or lighthearted elements to show your unique personality. 

    • Be Concise: Aim for a length that feels right for you, generally keeping them short and sweet to avoid rambling. 

4. Practice and Finalize

    • Practice Out Loud: Read your vows aloud to yourself or to a trusted friend to get comfortable with the words and pacing. 

    • Create a Clean Copy: Write your final vows on a special card or in a vow book, rather than just on your phone, for the big day. 

Vow Writing Tips

Love Songs and Poems to woo

Here’s a blend of alternative music and poems—with a love-infused lens—that you can use for inspiration, reflection, or creative referencing. I've curated a list of both alternative love songs and love-centric poems that offer a spectrum from tender to tormented, dreamy to defiant.

Alternative Love Songs

These aren’t your traditional love ballads—expect offbeat lyrics, deep emotion, and poetic storytelling.

1. "Lover, You Should’ve Come Over" – Jeff Buckley

  • Hauntingly emotional and beautifully raw.

  • Themes: longing, regret, unrequited love.

2. "Sea of Love" – Cat Power (cover)

  • Soft and vulnerable; stripped-down devotion.

  • Great for: delicate romantic moments.

3. "First Day of My Life" – Bright Eyes

  • Sweet, quirky, and disarmingly sincere.

  • Line to love: "I think I was blind before I met you."

4. "Maps" – Yeah Yeah Yeahs

  • Angsty, raw, and yearning.

  • A modern heartbreak anthem.

  • “They don’t love you like I love you.”

5. "Holocene" – Bon Iver

  • Not a classic love song, but rich in emotional subtext.

  • Good for capturing a love that coexists with self-discovery.

6. "Such Great Heights" – Iron & Wine (cover of The Postal Service)

  • Folky, gentle, and brimming with quiet awe.

  • Lyrics as metaphor-heavy as a good poem.

7. "Heartbeats" – José González (The Knife cover)

  • A melancholic take on fleeting intimacy.

Love-Themed Poems (Alternative & Poetic-Hearted)

These poems twist the usual themes of love—more shadow than sparkle, more ache than sugar.

1. “Somewhere I Have Never Travelled, Gladly Beyond” – E.E. Cummings

  • A masterclass in poetic, uncontainable love.

  • “nobody, not even the rain, has such small hands.”

2. “Having a Coke with You” – Frank O’Hara

  • Modern, conversational, and brimming with adoration.

  • “I look at you and I would rather look at you than all the portraits in the world.”

3. “Love After Love” – Derek Walcott

  • Self-love and reconnection—perfect for introspective love references.

  • “You will love again the stranger who was your self.”

4. “Variation on the Word Love” – Margaret Atwood

  • Dissects the word “love” in all its overuse and under-feeling.

  • “This word is far too short for us, it has only four letters.”

5. “Mad Girl’s Love Song” – Sylvia Plath

  • Surreal, hallucinatory love and mental unraveling.

  • “I think I made you up inside my head.”

Want to add that "spin"? Try these creative twists:

  • Mix lyrics with poems to create hybrid pieces.

  • Use alternative love songs as soundtracks for reading or writing poetry.

  • Use imagery from both sources in visual art or collage poetry.

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